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Anger Management – Dealing with Anger.
Anger is a normal emotions – similar to happiness and excitement – it is also essential to keeping ourselves balanced. The issue with anger is not so much with being angry, but the impact anger can have on those around us when not properly managed.
We have all heard to old adage, just walk away, or count to ten, but these seldom deal with the anger, they are more of an ignore the problem and hope it goes away type of deal.
An important step to managing our anger is to recognise it, and what triggers it. There are four main reasons for our anger to be triggered – being criticised, feeling a sense of injunctive, being prevented from doing what we would Iike to and someone breaking our rules – (for more info on these see LINK).
How successful we will be in managing the anger depends on how early we can catch it. I am not a fan of the term anger management, because once we are angry we rarely manage it. I believe more in trigger management, if we can recognise what cue our anger, and notice our physical responses to anger, we are more likely to be able to divert from that path of behaviour.
First step is to ask yourself what are your physical anger cues. These will often present before we notice we are even angry. For some it many be clenching of the teeth, for others, they may find they sigh more, or notice their hands starting for form fists… each of will have a different set of anger cues.
Once we can recognise the anger cue, we need to remove ourselves. Learning to do this allows us to take the time and space to assess what has triggered our anger. When we have worked this out, we can then put in place things to address and dissolve the anger, leaving us the capacity to deal with the situation in a calmer and more productive manner.
Anger is a common presentation we see people for. Sometimes it can take a bit of help, guidance and accountability to get it under control. And that’s ok. That’s what we are here for.
Reset Psychology are here to help you to deal with your anger and your anger issues – it is time to take action today.
Anger is a normal emotions – similar to happiness and excitement – it is also essential to keeping ourselves balanced. The issue with anger is not so much with being angry, but the impact anger can have on those around us when not properly managed.
We have all heard to old adage, just walk away, or count to ten, but these seldom deal with the anger, they are more of an ignore the problem and hope it goes away type of deal.
An important step to managing our anger is to recognise it, and what triggers it. There are four main reasons for our anger to be triggered – being criticised, feeling a sense of injunctive, being prevented from doing what we would Iike to and someone breaking our rules – (for more info on these see LINK).
How successful we will be in managing the anger depends on how early we can catch it. I am not a fan of the term anger management, because once we are angry we rarely manage it. I believe more in trigger management, if we can recognise what cue our anger, and notice our physical responses to anger, we are more likely to be able to divert from that path of behaviour.
First step is to ask yourself what are your physical anger cues. These will often present before we notice we are even angry. For some it many be clenching of the teeth, for others, they may find they sigh more, or notice their hands starting for form fists… each of will have a different set of anger cues.
Once we can recognise the anger cue, we need to remove ourselves. Learning to do this allows us to take the time and space to assess what has triggered our anger. When we have worked this out, we can then put in place things to address and dissolve the anger, leaving us the capacity to deal with the situation in a calmer and more productive manner.
Anger is a common presentation we see people for. Sometimes it can take a bit of help, guidance and accountability to get it under control. And that’s ok. That’s what we are here for.
Reset Psychology are here to help you to deal with your anger and your anger issues – it is time to take action today.
